On Being Proud: Q & A

November 3, 2010


Jonathan asks: What are you most proud of? And what are you least proud of?

This question didn’t seem terribly hard when I first read it.  But now that I try to answer it?  It seems almost impossible to me.

A cop-out answer would be to say how proud I am of my kids.  But moms are SUPPOSED to be proud of their kids.  It’s in the rule book.  So, I’m going to not go that route.  (But for the record: I am.  There.)

My list of flaws is impressive in length and stature.  What contributes to many of them is being an introvert.

(I know, I live my life somewhat publicly in social media AND work in sales, but I’m an introvert.  I’m COMPLICATED, you guys.)

There are things I absolutely HATE to do – making phone calls is one of them.  I am more comfortable on stage in front of hundreds of people giving a talk or moderating a panel than I am on the other end of the phone calling you for the first time (in any professional way).  I think it’s the lack of personal connection.  I’d rather talk to you in person first – look in your eyes, make you smile, read your body language.  So, when I DO push through that HORRIFIC angst and fear make the call and it goes really, really well?  THAT is something I can tangibly point to that I am proud of.

I’m also really proud of the collection of people in my life.  That’s my hobby, collecting people.  My pastime is helping them connect when it makes sense.  My collection of people I call “Friends” is an impressive sort – and I’m proud that they would have me as part of their life because I am better for having known them.  There is no one close to me who is toxic or damaging or a waste of time and energy.  I think that is something to be proud of, too.

What I am least proud of is sort of the opposite of what I’ve talked about above.  It bothers me that my nature gets in the way of things I want to do — that I have to fight myself to accomplish certain things. 

Being introverted has the power to inadvertently hurt people.  Not needing to talk about things distances people.  It also gives people the opportunity to make assumptions – often times that are incorrect. 

I’ve learned a lot about that particular flaw – and I’m still working on it.

How about you?  Introvert or extrovert?

Thanks for the question, Jonathan.  I hope you guys will go get to know him – he and I met many years ago through participating in NaBloPoMo and he is testament to the internet creating new, wonderful friendships.  One day I hope to be on his side of the pond so that we can meet properly, face-to-face. 

This Q&A session is part of NaBloPoMo 2010 and I will be answering questions throughout the month.  If you have a question you want to ask, leave it in the comments or send me an email at outsidevoice [at] gmail [dot] com.

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4 Responses to “On Being Proud: Q & A”

  1. Jonathan Says:

    And for my next trick, I will pull a blog post not nearly as good as this one out of a top hat….

  2. Knighton Says:

    Introvert saleswoman here. What you said. Exactly. You never really get over the fear of that first phone call, do you?

    Also, by the end of the sales day, the last thing I want to do is pick up the phone, which kind of interferes with normal, non-scary phone conversations. But I’m an introvert with a limited number of words in any given day. Conversations after 7pm are next to impossible. Sadly.

    • Pammer Says:

      It’s a weird dichotomy, isn’t it? Introverts that would rather talk to you in person?

      I like your “with a limited number of words in any given day.” I can’t tell you how many days that holds true for me, too.